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| Tweet Topic Started: Dec 19 2016, 04:40 PM (1,105 Views) | |
| seth8a | Dec 19 2016, 04:40 PM Post #1 |
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I have dipped on and off for many years now, but have had a hard time staying quit. The most recent episode happened in a stressful point in my life--I had quit for a year and then I chewed for 3 weeks. I had even gotten to the point of "gutting" the spit so my wife and kids didn't find out. I would get the hiccups reading to them as I gutted the spit. I quit 15 days ago--I hope this one sticks. I am just so mad at myself right now for being weak and dipping again. |
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| danojeno | Dec 19 2016, 04:59 PM Post #2 |
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Seth, most of us here have tried to Quit in the past, only to be disappointed in our inability to remain separated from nicotine. There's something special about this place though. Here we build brotherhood and hold each other accountable. Each day we post our promise not to use nicotine and we keep it. Head on over to your group, The March 2017 Pre-HOF Group and post your promise. |
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| RDB | Dec 19 2016, 05:02 PM Post #3 |
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Quit Ninja
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Hi Seth. We don't wish here. We quit. I'm not trying to be a dick, it's all about mindset. This is how it works - We promise ourselves and the entire community that we will not use nicotine in any form for one day. Then we keep that promise, and do the same thing again tomorrow. I've been doing that for 333 days now. Some have been going it for more than 3,000. It may sound simple, it may sound cheesy, but it works. We make our promise by posting Roll in our Quit Groups. Members of our quit groups all quit dipping within a month of each other. You are a member of March '17 (the month that you will be 100 days quit, which is a milestone we celebrate here). You can find your quit group here. and instructions for posting roll here. We also reach out to each other when we need to. You'll be encouraged to exchange contact digits with some of your brothers in quit. My digits are just a PM (Personal Message) away. See PMs in the upper right of your screen. If you jump in with both feet, and buy in to the program offered here, I guarantee you will stay quit. Make your promise. Keep your word. Reach out when you need to. If you can do it today, you can do it again tomorrow. One final thing - we post roll early. It is a promise (to not use nicotine) that you will keep during the entirely of the day. We don't log on in the middle of the day, or in the evening to declare that we have successfully kept quit - we promise first thing in the morning. Think about all the time you may have taken out of your day to feed your addiction. Did you ever pull over to buy a can when you didn't really have the time? Use that time now to post roll. Every single day. I'm proud to quit with you. I look forward to seeing your posts in March. |
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| jpetmpls | Dec 19 2016, 06:10 PM Post #4 |
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Quit wishing and start doing. You are not powerless in this fight. In fact you have thousands on your side, all you have to do is take a stand, make a promise and keep it.
Edited by jpetmpls, Dec 19 2016, 06:10 PM.
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Quitting isn't easy, but it is simple. Once you figure that out, the rest is gravy. You can't accomplish anything without the possibility of failure. ~ Gary "Lazarus Lake" Cantrell "Dip does not define you. Dip isn't who you are. It isn't your pleasure source in life. It doesn't make things easier. It doesn't help one single thing in life. Not one. Nicotine takes... money, health, integrity, freedom, and the withdrawal of not using it." ~ worktowin | |
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| pky1520 | Dec 19 2016, 07:26 PM Post #5 |
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You don't "have relapses." It doesn't happen to you, you choose to abandon your quit. Every single one of us has been there, but now that you're here, the tools are available to be successful. Get on roll and get ready to work. No need to wish anymore. Just make your promise and keep it. You got this! |
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Keys to a healthy diet: Catch, Clean, Cook, Consume HOF Speech: http://forum.killthecan.org/topic/11745522/1/#new Intro: http://forum.killthecan.org/topic/11629920/1/ | |
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| Jeff W | Dec 19 2016, 08:53 PM Post #6 |
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^^^^^ What he said! Mindset plays a huge roll in your quit. YOU CHOOSE everything that happens to you. Stop the pity party and ATTACK YOUR QUIT WITH AN ENTHUSIASM UNKNOWN TO MANKIND! |
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"Those Who Stay Will Be Champions" - Bo Schembechler "I don't take vacations. I don't get sick. I don't observe major holidays. I'm a jack hammer. " - Jim Harbaugh on taking time off "Attack each day with an enthusiasm unknown to mankind" - Jim Harbaugh My HOF Speech | |
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| Stranger999 | Dec 19 2016, 09:07 PM Post #7 |
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Quit Jedi
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I don't know of anyone who was unable stop using nicotine for a day. We all struggle with the "repeat" part. There are plenty of tools here to help with that. I quit with you today. Stranger999 day 1 plus 471 "repeats". :) |
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My message in a bottle to FUTURE ME. It happens to also be my Intro here. The Ocean | |
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| seth8a | Dec 19 2016, 09:10 PM Post #8 |
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I hear you, this is great advice. You have no idea how pissed I am at myself about this relapse. I thought I'd quit for good in December of 2015. I am filled with rage at myself. I need to use that to quit forever. I have two beautiful girls and a beautiful wife, a great job and a great life. Dec. 2nd was the last day that I dipped, and it was a slippery slope from Nov. 5th until that day. I thought I'd buy a can of Kodiak and "give myself a break" from the anxiety I was experiencing. I've done the same shit since I was 20, always falling back on my Kodiak when things get hairy. I worked forestry jobs all through my 20s and that's what got me hooked. You just couldn't get away from chew in forestry work. I work an office job now, but still can't stay away. So pissed at myself. Edited by seth8a, Dec 19 2016, 09:14 PM.
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| Jeff W | Dec 19 2016, 09:16 PM Post #9 |
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Take comfort in the fact that we are all just like you. I'm married, with a 2yr old daughter and a 5 month old son. I tried to quit on my own thousands of times and failed every time. The nic bitch is very crafty and you need to build strong defenses. I want to be there for my kids when they need me. Get pissed off at the Nicotine and go post roll right now. Promise you will not use nicotine in any form today. It sounds silly to promise strangers on the internet but it works and it is liberating. WE ARE YOUR DEFENSIVE WALL! I didn't think I could do this but now it's day 47 for me. 47 days isn't shit, but it's a huge step in the right direction for me. Look around at all the 3,000 plus day guys this shit works if you let it. |
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"Those Who Stay Will Be Champions" - Bo Schembechler "I don't take vacations. I don't get sick. I don't observe major holidays. I'm a jack hammer. " - Jim Harbaugh on taking time off "Attack each day with an enthusiasm unknown to mankind" - Jim Harbaugh My HOF Speech | |
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| harvestgirl | Dec 19 2016, 09:50 PM Post #10 |
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That little tempest in a teapot....
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The term "relapse" is used for people who, you know, have cancer or something. You didn't "relapse". You made a conscious decision to chew again. No more "relapsing". No more putting that shit in your mouth. Join your March group and QUIT with them. |
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"Do not go gentle into that good night, Old age should burn and rave at close of day; Rage, rage against the dying of the light." Dylan Thomas Quis custodiet ipsos custodes? Quit Date: 9.26.16 HOF Date: 1.3.17 6th Floor: 5.18.18 Intro | HOF Speech | HG & The BAQ Here, Samrs! : An Adoption Story, written by January and produced by April. Here, Samrs! Chapter Two: In Which Samrs Learns to Conjugate | |
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| tabrow3 | Dec 19 2016, 09:53 PM Post #11 |
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Seth, I'm with you brother. Virtually same exact scenario with my wife and kids. I highly encourage you to read up on the instructions on how to post roll and join us in the March group. I'm only on day 23, so I'd be right there alongside you along with some other great quitters. PM me for digits for support. |
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| Craigd41 | Dec 19 2016, 10:01 PM Post #12 |
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Take comfort in the fact that we are all just like you. I'm married, with a 2yr old daughter and a 5 month old son. I tried to quit on my own thousands of times and failed every time. The nic bitch is very crafty and you need to build strong defenses. I want to be there for my kids when they need me. Get pissed off at the Nicotine and go post roll right now. Promise you will not use nicotine in any form today. It sounds silly to promise strangers on the internet but it works and it is liberating. WE ARE YOUR DEFENSIVE WALL! I didn't think I could do this but now it's day 47 for me. 47 days isn't shit, but it's a huge step in the right direction for me. Look around at all the 3,000 plus day guys this shit works if you let it. Seth, Once a day, everyday. Quit. Everyone here was in the same spot you were on their quit day. We have all failed at quitting more times than we can all count. I'm on 15 days quit. I quit every morning. I give my word to everyone on this site and to myself, and especially my March brothers and sisters that I will quit today. If I get to a point where I'm craving, I log on here and troll. There's tons of info and stories of people just like you and just like me. Addicted to dip. Or I text someone in my group, acting like I'm checking on them, but really just talking to someone who's going through the same shit I am. See you on roll tonight or in the morning. Join March and let's get started. |
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| miker0351 | Dec 19 2016, 10:04 PM Post #13 |
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Hey Seth, you've been getting some great feedback from a bunch of people and all that they're saying is spot on. I once heard a saying that's stuck with me, "wish in one hand, crap in the other and see which one fills up first". The plain and simple answer is to just stop using the stuff. That's the great thing about this site and the method here that's proven effective for so many people. You only need to quit for one day at a time (odaat) and keep quitting every damn day (edd). No one in here us committed to forever, we just keep quitting each day. Time to stop wishing brother and start committing just for one day |
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No war is over until the enemy says it’s over. We may think it over, we may declare it over, but in fact, the enemy gets a vote. - Gen. James "Mad Dog" Mattis (Ret.) I didn't come this far to only come this far. I came this far to build the strength to keep going. In this life all I have is my word and my balls and I do not break them for nobody - Al Capone You wish, I'll work... Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain - and most fools do - Benjamin Franklin Success happens when you hold on after others let go My Introduction and HOF Speech and Board Use Rules | |
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| Elizabeth529 | Dec 19 2016, 10:25 PM Post #14 |
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Hello Seth, Welcome to KTC!!! I am a fellow quitter with you in your March group. I am only on day 3 (again) and I am going through the same struggles. You have to be STRONG and REALLY want this......There are tons of people on this forum that will support you in your quit. But they can't want it more than you do. Think of all the reasons you are quitting, for yourself and your loved ones, your family. Don't mean to get very dark on you...but a veteran PM'd me and reached out to me last week and told me "IT IS A MATTER OF LIFE AND DEATH" and it really IS. So please choose LIFE and come join us in our March group, dump your can and post ROLL now with us!!! I know it's hard...we are all here with you. Read the forum and the millions of suggestions of what is helping people get through the cravings in the first few days...the fake herbal snuff...gum, mints, exercise etc. We got your back, but YOU have to your own back as well. Welcome to the forum my fellow quit brother. Glad to have you. Make the choice to save your life today!!!! |
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| seth8a | Dec 19 2016, 10:26 PM Post #15 |
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I promised my wife I'd stop. My daughters are the most beautiful things in the world to me and I promised to them I'd stop. The worst thing is the lying--to myself and to others. I "just" dipped for three weeks and a couple of tins, but it's like I never quit. It was about as pathetic as you can get--reading books to them with a chew in my mouth while hiccuping because I was trying to hide it. |
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