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| Tired and terrified...; Time to quit. | |
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| Tweet Topic Started: Oct 25 2016, 12:03 AM (2,155 Views) | |
| texasxb | Oct 25 2016, 12:03 AM Post #1 |
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I've been on the can for 17.5 years, and I'm tired of it. I'm sick of being a slave to this disgusting habit. I've wanted to quit for years, but I've been weak minded. Two days ago, I switched from Cope long cut, to Cope pouches. That was my first step. Today I talked to doc about it, and he set me up with Chantix. I know many of you will steer me away from that too, but I am terrified of quitting. It's dictated who I am for so long, it scares me to think about who might be on the other side of that can. I WILL quit. I WILL survive this. I just fee like I (and my marriage) needs a short term chemical aid. As I type this, my heart is pounding, and my eyes are watering. I'm so scared. |
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| LMM | Oct 25 2016, 01:54 AM Post #2 |
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RELAX! Everyone here knows what is going through your head and we've all been there before. If you really want to quit, you've come to the right place. Drop the cope pouches, drop the patch/gum, drop the chantix. All of that is just band-aids to a war wound. Here is what you need to do (among other things): find your quit group in the forum (it will be either January or February, I think the latter). Post your promise that you won't use nicotine today. It seems weird to post a promise to a bunch of internet strangers, but it works. Anybody can quit for one day. Take it an hour at a time, a minute at a time, whatever is needed; just don't use nicotine that day. Then, tomorrow when you wake up, post your promise again. Don't think of the future beyond that one day. The way to quit is one day at a time, or ODAAT. Embrace it and you will soon find yourself on the other side where the pastures are green. Also, I recommend reading long intro threads and HOF (hall of fame) speeches. This will feed your stoke to quit, offer you lots of advice and motivation, encourage you that you are not alone in this, and give you something to look forward to. The formula is not easy, but it is simple. Follow it and you will see freedom at long last! PS - I'm only 39 days ahead of you in this quit, but I feel confident to say all of the above. I quit with you today! |
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| brettlees | Oct 25 2016, 01:29 PM Post #3 |
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^^^^ LMM is only a few days ahead of you but his advice is spot on! Keep sharing your experience here, and it lets guys like that reach out to help. That's one way to build your network, and to help other quitters see what you have made it through, in the future. Get to know other quitters here, and learn all you can about what you are fighting in this evil addiction. If you start to get mad about the tobacco companies, you are starting to get it! And use your discomfort, and any anger, to fuel your resolve. You can break free now, just keep yourself in the game and it gets easier over time! |
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Took my freedom back October 23, 2013. Here's an article that taught me a lot and made me hate the addiction: Nicotine Addiction 101-- newer quitters check it out-- and vets do it too, to breathe new life into your quit! 24 Quitters I have met: Ihatecope, >Pinched<, T-Cell, grizzlyhasclaws, Canvasback, BaseballPlayer, Cbird65, ERDVM, BradleyGuy, Ted, Zeno, AppleJack, Bronc, Knockout, MookieBlaylock, Rdad, 2mch2lv4, MN_Ben, Natro, Lippizaner, Amquash, ChristopherJ, GDubya, Mogul. Each one was a real honor and continues to fortify my resolve to stay QUIT! | |
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| RDB | Oct 25 2016, 02:00 PM Post #4 |
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Yep, we've been where you are. There's no way getting around it, quitting sucks until it doesn't. Take it from someone who thought he needed to "taper" down using nicotine gum for the first three weeks - you don't need the aids. You need to buckle up and embrace the suck of the quit. The only place the nicotine gum got me was three weeks behind where I should have been. Every time I fed my addiction, even a little bit, I took a step backwards. Every time I extended the time between pieces of gum by one hour, I took a step backwards. Cold Turkey is your best bet at a lasting quit. If you quit today, your Quit Group will be the February group found here. Guess what! If you go over there and post roll, right away, you will be the first member of that group! The pioneer! But, you won't be alone. The full force of the KTC forums will be behind you. Learn about posting roll here. That's the backbone of the site, and the price of admission to this otherwise free site. Honestly, the anxiety, the fear of the unknown, feeling like you're losing a "friend" - we've all experienced it. When you get involved here, and stay quit, you will soon learn that tobacco and nicotine are the enemies. They have been trying to kill you for the past 17.5 years. Freedom can be found on the other side of the suck. But you've got to be willing to take your licks before you get there. It's worth it. |
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| worktowin | Oct 26 2016, 06:31 AM Post #5 |
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I’m not a tow truck driver
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Hello sir. My name is Michael, aka worktowin, and I'm an addict. ^^^this is step one. Dip does not define you. Dip isn't who who are. It isn't your pleasure source in life. It doesn't make things easier. It doesnt help one single thing in life. Not one. Nicotine takes... money, health, integrity, freedom, and the withdrawal of not using it. When you throw a new one in, the withdrawal goes away. Briefly. You are scared? Anxious? Not ofmissing the good... but facing the bad. Bud I wasted 25 years and $40,000 chasing the withdrawals away. You are in good company here. You can do this. It is going to suck at first. But until you quit you'll never know how good it feels to break free. Freedom is a glorious thing, and not being chained to a little round can wig a chopped up plant is sure a good feeling. That little can had me by the nuts too man, but I promise that you can do this. Don't plan your quit. Don't cut back or wean yourself off... quit with us. We win together here. Take your life back. Win. Today's the day. Why give that little can any more power over you? Edited by worktowin, Oct 26 2016, 06:31 AM.
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Quit Date 12/24/2012 HOF 4/2/2013 Comma 9/19/2015 | |
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| AppleJack | Oct 26 2016, 08:41 AM Post #6 |
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Rock and Roll Ain't Noise Pollution...
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Hey, man... you're coming back to look at this. You're reading some hard but excellent truths. You're getting genius and compassionate advice. You're being called out... What's it gonna be, bro? Taking your life back today? |
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Day 1... 4-17-13 Well, it's one louder isn't it? It's not ten. | |
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| JGlav | Oct 26 2016, 08:43 AM Post #7 |
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December Disciple
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You got this. And everyone posting here has been in your shoes. It truly is one second, one minute, one hour and one day at a time. All the withdraw anxiety will go away. Its a plant, a nasty disgusting plant, learn to hate it. Post roll in the morning, get some numbers. We are with you and quitting is bad ass. Life is so much better without putting a weed in your lip. Proud to be quit with you. |
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| Thumblewort | Oct 26 2016, 09:43 AM Post #8 |
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DUCK!!!!!!!
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I was scared too. I used a patch to ween down because cold turkey wouldn't work for me, right? Wrong! In fact, I got to go through withdrawals twice. It sucks bad a a few days, then it's mind over matter. Do it now! As far a Chantrix goes, I've always heard as long as it's not nicotine, use it. |
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| eyehatecope | Oct 26 2016, 11:07 AM Post #9 |
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One of my biggest fears/thoughts were, I am so nervous without dip. That's why I dip. It calms me down. Guess what? Since I've quit that is a BS. Actually, I'm less nervous without it. All dip provided me was a way to tell me that I needed the nicotine. A way to say, go buy more because you will run out. Then what will you do? I know, drive X amount of miles no matter the time of day to buy more. You either quit cold turkey and with the help of this site and the sisters and brothers or you don't and that's my opinion. |
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| brettlees | Oct 26 2016, 11:54 AM Post #10 |
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Dude you've had some hellaciously strong quitters weigh in for you here, and some amazing advice. Yet, you haven't posted roll yet. You supposedly started two days before today. You were on the site early this morning. Time to jump in with both feet! Don't be one of those guys that tries every three to five years to quit, the average amount of time it takes to re-garner the nuts to try again. Just do it now, all the way. Can't you smell the freedom? This batch of guys that have offered you a hand and guidance is amazing- please please be a guy who deserves it! |
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Took my freedom back October 23, 2013. Here's an article that taught me a lot and made me hate the addiction: Nicotine Addiction 101-- newer quitters check it out-- and vets do it too, to breathe new life into your quit! 24 Quitters I have met: Ihatecope, >Pinched<, T-Cell, grizzlyhasclaws, Canvasback, BaseballPlayer, Cbird65, ERDVM, BradleyGuy, Ted, Zeno, AppleJack, Bronc, Knockout, MookieBlaylock, Rdad, 2mch2lv4, MN_Ben, Natro, Lippizaner, Amquash, ChristopherJ, GDubya, Mogul. Each one was a real honor and continues to fortify my resolve to stay QUIT! | |
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| jpetmpls | Oct 26 2016, 12:50 PM Post #11 |
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This is the gospel. Once you reach this realization, the path is clear and you will walk it with certainty. Just gotta take that first step. |
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Quitting isn't easy, but it is simple. Once you figure that out, the rest is gravy. You can't accomplish anything without the possibility of failure. ~ Gary "Lazarus Lake" Cantrell "Dip does not define you. Dip isn't who you are. It isn't your pleasure source in life. It doesn't make things easier. It doesn't help one single thing in life. Not one. Nicotine takes... money, health, integrity, freedom, and the withdrawal of not using it." ~ worktowin | |
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| texasxb | Oct 27 2016, 04:21 AM Post #12 |
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I haven't posted roll yet, because I went to the pouches twice during my 16 hr shift last night. I'm not proud of it, but was still a huge accomplishment. Today (rather tonight, due to working nights for a while), has been a bit easier. I feel that I finally have the strength to beat this, though I choose to take it slow. The last time I tried to quit, I simply tossed the can, and it almost cost me my marriage. The withdrawals and mood swings caused me to easily anger, and say things I didn't mean. She was gonna leave, if I didn't fix it. So I fixed it with a can. This time is different. The will to quit is rock solid, but I won't rush it again and risk losing my wife. I initially thought it would take me a couple of weeks, but I'm already seeing that it's happening much sooner. Please have faith in me. I will not falter in my tobacco-free quest. |
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| worktowin | Oct 27 2016, 04:44 AM Post #13 |
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I’m not a tow truck driver
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Dude... you can't fool an addict. This is gonna sound harsh, but you need to hear this. Heroin addicts don't succeed by just sticking the needle in twice in a day. Heroin and nicotine are the most addictive substances on earth. Toss the can. Toss the pouches. NOW. You wanna rage on someone? I'll happily give you my phone number. Happily. You can yell at me all day or night long. I'll take your rage dude. But we do have a few rules of engagement here... we are nicotine free, itvis how we roll, and we do not take rage out on our families. They didn't shove tobacco in our mouths and they don't take the blame for it. I haven't lost faith in you or I wouldn't waste my time in the middle of the night typing to you, but if you don't throw your cans away RIGHT NOW I'm telling you that you are going down a path that we've all, including you, gone down many times before. It's like this dude...imagine having a really really hairy arm and having a really sticky band aid on it. Do you slowly take it off? Or do you pull it off quickly? We know how to quit here. We all pussyfooted around, weaning ourselves or setting quit dates... and then we found this place. Do it man. Want my number? Throw your cans out. Say yes. Let's do this. 1,404 days ago I was a slave too, curled up in a little ball crying like a weak piece of crap over a chopped up plant in a little round can... today I'm free. Let's do this. Edited by worktowin, Oct 27 2016, 05:16 AM.
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| RDB | Oct 27 2016, 06:15 AM Post #14 |
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What he said ^. We've all been exactly where you are. Fear of raging against the family? Yep. After you've set yourself free of the chains of this addiction you wil see exactly what it has stolen from your family. The path that you are on inevitably leads back to full-on daily constant use. We know. We've done it before. All of us. That little voice telling you that you needed those two pouches - that's your addiction. It wants to be fed. You must starve it. Throw the can. Post roll. Promise to remain nicotine free. Keep your promise. That is how you quit. |
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| texasxb | Oct 27 2016, 08:17 AM Post #15 |
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Not trying to fool anyone. I'm being more open about this shit than I ever thought I could be. Yet I feel that I'm forced to defend myself for being honest. I respect the rules here, and have no intention of trying to post anywhere else til it's all gone. I don't want to rage on anyone. I choose to take slow. I appreciate and enjoy all the words of encouragement, and believe it or not, it's helping tremendously. I'll be back to post roll shortly. |
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