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I Quit
Topic Started: Jun 2 2016, 10:54 AM (1,871 Views)
YoYo-
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Hi guys and gals. Long time chewer and getting on the wagon. My addiction started 10 or 11 years ago when my then girlfriend, now wife said hey its time to quit smoking. I said no problem and quit cold turkey. Now that's when my problem really started. Guess what handled my cravings, chew.

Fast forward to this past Monday. My wife asks for our online bank accnt and password. I give it to her not thinking about it. She comes across some purchases at the local gas station and asks me about it. These purchases are new to her because I handle the finances. So I tell her with shame what they are. One can of chew and cash for tomorrow's can so I can spread out the purchases on my card. From there it was a humongous blow up and she told me to pack up and get wheeling.

This is how bad my addiction is/was. 11 years ago when my wife saw me chewing and complained I said don't worry I'll quit. She threatened leaving and all that. From then on I turned into a closet chewer up to 2 cans a day. Sure when I was around my wife I wouldn't chew but away from her I was a demon.
I compare this behavior to my dad, he was a bad alcoholic who hid his booze in the garage and never drank in front of us. It wasn't for our sake but afraid of my mom leaving.

So I was getting caught every 6 months or so and it was always an extreme blow up. Me trying to talk my way out of it and my wife saying everything that I did to hide it (all the signs never escaped her). After seeing the bank statements I guess she had enough. She pointed to the "line in the sand" and said it's going to be chew or me.

I'm going to need a lot of help here for a few reasons. One, we all know how hard it is to quit. Two, she doesn't believe me already that I quit. I "quit" before when we got in arguments but that was just to get her off my back but this time is the real deal for me.

I thank everyone for reading this and look forward to hearing from you guys and gals. Btw I've chewed a pack of trident in the first two days. Seems a lot but I have a feeling I should buy stock in it as soon as possible.

Thanks again, YoYo
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wildirish317
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I hate to break it to you YoYo, but you can't quit for your wife or your marriage. You can only quit for yourself. It won't work any other way.

Spend some time reading the links that are posted near the top of September's roll page.
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AppleJack
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Rock and Roll Ain't Noise Pollution...
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Damn. I could have written that 3 years ago. My wife was no fool either and caught me sooo many times. My lies were shit too... just pure shit!

Couple things to point out man... I don't doubt your resolve to quit.

At least right now.

When the wife is on the warpath and the heat is on it's very easy to come to this decision. Hell... I did it a hundred times. Yet... when it all blows over it's far too easy to lapse. What I'm saying is... do NOT do this for her. In any way. YOU have to want this, be jealous for it, and make it all about you. Do away with the lying, the hiding, the shame... all that stuff that makes you less.

Do this for you. It's about freedom.

It's pretty damn cool.
Day 1... 4-17-13


Well, it's one louder isn't it? It's not ten.
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Thumblewort
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DUCK!!!!!!!
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I "quit" for my wife and kids 30-40 times over 17 years. I only quit once for myself. Big difference.
Some of my fondest and clearest memories are peeing in places that aren't bathrooms.
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Idaho Spuds
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Thumblewort
Jun 2 2016, 01:49 PM
I "quit" for my wife and kids 30-40 times over 17 years. I only quit once for myself. Big difference.
^^ good advice and comments there and I could have written that same intro.

Have you told your wife about KTC? I am guessing you have not, and she doesn't know how bad it is, and how hard it is to quit.
Come clean, show her the site, have her read spousal-support
“If you find yourself in a hole, the first thing to do is stop diggin'.” -- Anonymous
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November 2014 Quit Group
My Intro
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Idaho Spuds
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Idaho Spuds
Jun 2 2016, 07:01 PM
Thumblewort
Jun 2 2016, 01:49 PM
I "quit" for my wife and kids 30-40 times over 17 years. I only quit once for myself. Big difference.
^^ good advice and comments there and I could have written that same intro.

Have you told your wife about KTC? I am guessing you have not, and she doesn't know how bad it is, and how hard it is to quit.
Come clean, show her the site, have her read spousal-support
Also, I know our responses weren't the mouth-hug you were hoping for... However, we can help, have you posted roll yet?
“If you find yourself in a hole, the first thing to do is stop diggin'.” -- Anonymous
Yesterday +1
November 2014 Quit Group
My Intro
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AppleJack
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Rock and Roll Ain't Noise Pollution...
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Idaho Spuds
Jun 2 2016, 07:09 PM
Idaho Spuds
Jun 2 2016, 07:01 PM
Thumblewort
Jun 2 2016, 01:49 PM
I "quit" for my wife and kids 30-40 times over 17 years. I only quit once for myself. Big difference.
^^ good advice and comments there and I could have written that same intro.

Have you told your wife about KTC? I am guessing you have not, and she doesn't know how bad it is, and how hard it is to quit.
Come clean, show her the site, have her read spousal-support
Also, I know our responses weren't the mouth-hug you were hoping for... However, we can help, have you posted roll yet?
He did.

I saw that roll post, man. Way to man up! Let me tell you this one very important thing... get involved and stay involved. It works. Ask me how I know.

AJ... 1,143 days <----- that's how I know.
Day 1... 4-17-13


Well, it's one louder isn't it? It's not ten.
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YoYo-
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Idaho Spuds
Jun 2 2016, 07:09 PM
Idaho Spuds
Jun 2 2016, 07:01 PM
Thumblewort
Jun 2 2016, 01:49 PM
I "quit" for my wife and kids 30-40 times over 17 years. I only quit once for myself. Big difference.
^^ good advice and comments there and I could have written that same intro.

Have you told your wife about KTC? I am guessing you have not, and she doesn't know how bad it is, and how hard it is to quit.
Come clean, show her the site, have her read spousal-support
Also, I know our responses weren't the mouth-hug you were hoping for... However, we can help, have you posted roll yet?
Well these comments are the gut punch I needed. I told my wife about this site and didn't get much reaction from her about it. Today has been a bad one for me but I'm fighting through it. The first hour of work was okay but the last hour has been horrible. My brain is just dying for some nicotine. I've gone through a quarter pack of trident so far.
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YoYo-
Jun 3 2016, 08:47 AM
Idaho Spuds
Jun 2 2016, 07:09 PM
Idaho Spuds
Jun 2 2016, 07:01 PM
Thumblewort
Jun 2 2016, 01:49 PM
I "quit" for my wife and kids 30-40 times over 17 years. I only quit once for myself. Big difference.
^^ good advice and comments there and I could have written that same intro.

Have you told your wife about KTC? I am guessing you have not, and she doesn't know how bad it is, and how hard it is to quit.
Come clean, show her the site, have her read spousal-support
Also, I know our responses weren't the mouth-hug you were hoping for... However, we can help, have you posted roll yet?
Well these comments are the gut punch I needed. I told my wife about this site and didn't get much reaction from her about it. Today has been a bad one for me but I'm fighting through it. The first hour of work was okay but the last hour has been horrible. My brain is just dying for some nicotine. I've gone through a quarter pack of trident so far.
read the Tom and Jenny Kern story. Google some pictures of oral cancer caused by tobacco. Print and cut one out and keep it in your wallet.. Mine has been in there for 292 days.

You WILL make it through this suck. Just remember it. If you go back now your suck will be WORSE.

Wife dint give you a reaction because you haven't built up any trust with her. Trust and respect must be EARNED bro. She will come around, and so will your fellow KTC brothers and sisters. You can do this. Well be posting with you every damn day.

Let people at work know you are quit, that may help. My digits are a PM away, JB
'You can blow out a candle, but you cant blow out a fire. Once the flames begin to catch, the wind will blow it higher'
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jswiss11
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YoYo - welcome to the Suck (as they say). it was the absolute worst for me, but in the end strengthens your resolve to stay quit, because Lord knows I don't want to keep going through that. go get some sunflower seeds - they help keep my mouth busy (no homo).

as for your wife - she's at the end of the road it sounds like. I too, quit for my Wife, but also for me. the day I quit was the day like any other that I let her down by craving and caving, but the hurt i saw in her eyes was enough to say enough.

good luck on your quit bro. just for today.
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YoYo-
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Yesterday was a rough one. Got by though and feel better about today
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Hey brother.....

Glad to see you finally got smart, but like the others said, you have to quit for you....quitting for anyone else just won't work. Can't add too much to this other than to say it's going to take some time (I mean SEVERAL WEEKS) for you to begin feeling "normal"....Over the years you've been on a nicotine drip potent enough to kill a small mammal on a daily basis, your brain added millions of dopamine receptors (the "pleasure points" in your nugget that give you that "ahhhhh" sensation when bathed in nicotine). Now that you've effectively cut off the supply, those little bastards are dying hideous, horrible deaths up inside your gray matter. That is what triggers the anxious, nervous, "if I don't get a dip soon I'm going to explode" feelings. Recognize it, and them, for what they are.....symptoms of HEALING. Yes it sucks, but it won't actually kill you. Get through this by following the protocol countless thousands of others have followed..... Wake up, Piss, Post. Honor your word you won't use nicotine in any form today, then repeat in the morning. Stack these moments together, and you WILL be quit. It works, but you have to work it.
Who are the Addicts?
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Steakbomb18
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Yo!

That was a great intro and I felt like I was looking in a mirror having read that. There was one theme that just kept resonating with me as I read it; SLAVE. Shit, that nicotine bitch had you by the balls. She EFF'ed with your marriage and made you finger bang her to the likes of 2 cans per day. You were her complete and utter bitch.

Do yourself a favor, let that sink in for a second. Nicotine made you her bitch and almost took everything away from you. Everything. Never forget that.

I was a bitch too, and just as much of one as you were. But, now I'm free. 900+ days free and man, let me tell you - its still invigorating and brings me complete and resolute joy. You hear what I'm saying, being and FEELING free from addiction is exhilarating. Nothing beats this. I've gained a plethora of friends, lifelong bonds, from jumping in head first. The ROI on quitting is so ridiculous, you only wish your portfolio would perform 1% as well. Reason I share all this is because I want this for you...for you to feel and experience what I have.

Heed the advice of those before me - we've all been there - get to the point where you want this more than anything you've ever fought for. Cuz if you don't, that bitch will take it all away.


HOF: 3/21/2014
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Quit with you today YoYo.
I serve a Big God who has blessed me beyond measure.. He has shown me more grace than anyone deserves, if I look good or right it is only him in me..
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Steakbomb18
Jun 7 2016, 11:44 PM
Yo!

That was a great intro and I felt like I was looking in a mirror having read that. There was one theme that just kept resonating with me as I read it; SLAVE. Shit, that nicotine bitch had you by the balls. She EFF'ed with your marriage and made you finger bang her to the likes of 2 cans per day. You were her complete and utter bitch.

Do yourself a favor, let that sink in for a second. Nicotine made you her bitch and almost took everything away from you. Everything. Never forget that.

I was a bitch too, and just as much of one as you were. But, now I'm free. 900+ days free and man, let me tell you - its still invigorating and brings me complete and resolute joy. You hear what I'm saying, being and FEELING free from addiction is exhilarating. Nothing beats this. I've gained a plethora of friends, lifelong bonds, from jumping in head first. The ROI on quitting is so ridiculous, you only wish your portfolio would perform 1% as well. Reason I share all this is because I want this for you...for you to feel and experience what I have.

Heed the advice of those before me - we've all been there - get to the point where you want this more than anything you've ever fought for. Cuz if you don't, that bitch will take it all away.


^^^ this message is spot on. I hope you read it over and over

What you are feeling today is not the new normal. It is withdrawal from a drug, a chopped up plant in a can, that does nothing but take from you. Freedom from this has to be earned. But it is soooo worth it.

Directly above Steak's message is a reach out from another bad ass new quitter. I hope the 2 of you exchange numbers. The friendships steak describes are real, and the Accountabilty you will feel to these dudes cannot be put into words.

Applejack and I could ninja dip and hide cans with the best of them. We both have over 3 years of freedom under our belts. I wouldn't trade this feeling for anything. Neither wild he. And neither will you.
Quit Date 12/24/2012
HOF 4/2/2013
Comma 9/19/2015
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