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Topic Started: Jul 16 2013, 01:38 AM (26,723 Views)
Pinched
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1DAAT (one day at a time)
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Day 277 - 4/17/14
Newbs and others take notice...when I was on week one and two and kept hearing from the veterans on here "it gets better" I just wanted to tell them to fuck off because it sucks right now, I could give a fuck about it getting better, I wanted it better right now. I am not from the Now generation and I have never asked for anyone to give me something nor have I ever felt entitled to something, but early in my quit I just wanted all the bullshit to stop.

The constant cravings, the little voices telling me one little pinch won't hurt, the rage (OMFG the Rage), the mood swings, the change in dietary needs, posting roll... All of it was too much, at times.

However, everyone was consistent, the message was clear, the people were real, the stories hit home. The path was defined. SO I stuck with it and ever since about 240 something it has been easier. Granted the recent forum changes were not easy but no IT changes are; however, this recent changed reminded me of when I was a newb fucking up roll, bumping people lie crazy and not giving a damn because my head was so far in the fog (AKA up nicotine's ass) that I could see the real journey.

Tonight I have a chance to expand my quit network in real life again, meeting up with a over two year quitter, a -100 day brother, a seasoned yet pre-HOF quitter, and if they can make it some even more long term quitters. All of this shows me that it doesn't matter if you are on day 1, 10, 100, 1,000, 10,000; we all quit the same way daily, we are all one bad decision away from another day 1. We all share the same stories, we all are addicts.

Now insert Ferris Bueller voice "If you have the means to meet another quitter I highly recommend picking one out, they are so choice"
Ferris Bueller - So Choice

Carry on!

>P<
"If you want to quit then stop talking and just QUIT. If you want to kill yourself a bullet is cheaper and faster than a tin, plus it eliminates my hearing you whine and cry like a bitch."

Best thing I have read on KTC...Submitted by tgafish on 7/3/14

Former Skoal Straight and Cope Longcut user that started at the age of 12. QUIT on 7/15/13
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Pinched
Apr 17 2014, 10:06 AM
Day 277 - 4/17/14
Newbs and others take notice...when I was on week one and two and kept hearing from the veterans on here "it gets better" I just wanted to tell them to fuck off because it sucks right now, I could give a fuck about it getting better, I wanted it better right now. I am not from the Now generation and I have never asked for anyone to give me something nor have I ever felt entitled to something, but early in my quit I just wanted all the bullshit to stop.

The constant cravings, the little voices telling me one little pinch won't hurt, the rage (OMFG the Rage), the mood swings, the change in dietary needs, posting roll... All of it was too much, at times.

However, everyone was consistent, the message was clear, the people were real, the stories hit home. The path was defined. SO I stuck with it and ever since about 240 something it has been easier. Granted the recent forum changes were not easy but no IT changes are; however, this recent changed reminded me of when I was a newb fucking up roll, bumping people lie crazy and not giving a damn because my head was so far in the fog (AKA up nicotine's ass) that I could see the real journey.

Tonight I have a chance to expand my quit network in real life again, meeting up with a over two year quitter, a -100 day brother, a seasoned yet pre-HOF quitter, and if they can make it some even more long term quitters. All of this shows me that it doesn't matter if you are on day 1, 10, 100, 1,000, 10,000; we all quit the same way daily, we are all one bad decision away from another day 1. We all share the same stories, we all are addicts.

Now insert Ferris Bueller voice "If you have the means to meet another quitter I highly recommend picking one out, they are so choice"
Ferris Bueller - So Choice

Carry on!

>P<
'Cheers' Looking forward to a couple beers and good quit conversation tonight! Great message to the newbies, it truely does get better. But you have to want it and put the work in (kinda like most worth-while things in life...) to build a quit that lasts. There are many things in life you can half-ass your way through and still be considered sucessful. Quitting isn't like that. You have to intentionally quit every day, build your accountability.
Fish, eat, sleep. Repeat.
quit date 2/10/12
HOF date 5/19/12
1 Year 2/10/13
2 Years 2/10/14
8th Floor 4/19/14
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Apr 17 2014, 10:19 AM
Pinched
Apr 17 2014, 10:06 AM
Day 277 - 4/17/14
Newbs and others take notice...when I was on week one and two and kept hearing from the veterans on here "it gets better" I just wanted to tell them to fuck off because it sucks right now, I could give a fuck about it getting better, I wanted it better right now. I am not from the Now generation and I have never asked for anyone to give me something nor have I ever felt entitled to something, but early in my quit I just wanted all the bullshit to stop.

The constant cravings, the little voices telling me one little pinch won't hurt, the rage (OMFG the Rage), the mood swings, the change in dietary needs, posting roll... All of it was too much, at times.

However, everyone was consistent, the message was clear, the people were real, the stories hit home. The path was defined. SO I stuck with it and ever since about 240 something it has been easier. Granted the recent forum changes were not easy but no IT changes are; however, this recent changed reminded me of when I was a newb fucking up roll, bumping people lie crazy and not giving a damn because my head was so far in the fog (AKA up nicotine's ass) that I could see the real journey.

Tonight I have a chance to expand my quit network in real life again, meeting up with a over two year quitter, a -100 day brother, a seasoned yet pre-HOF quitter, and if they can make it some even more long term quitters. All of this shows me that it doesn't matter if you are on day 1, 10, 100, 1,000, 10,000; we all quit the same way daily, we are all one bad decision away from another day 1. We all share the same stories, we all are addicts.

Now insert Ferris Bueller voice "If you have the means to meet another quitter I highly recommend picking one out, they are so choice"
Ferris Bueller - So Choice

Carry on!

>P<
'Cheers' Looking forward to a couple beers and good quit conversation tonight! Great message to the newbies, it truely does get better. But you have to want it and put the work in (kinda like most worth-while things in life...) to build a quit that lasts. There are many things in life you can half-ass your way through and still be considered sucessful. Quitting isn't like that. You have to intentionally quit every day, build your accountability.
Nothing to add... only wish I was close enough to join you guys.

Rock on my brother and you guys have a great time.

shocker
Quit 7/16/2013 -- Oct '13 Duck Fips

My HOF Speech

"As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another" - Proverbs 27:17

"The poison sucks. I hate it. I hated it this morning, I hated it at noon, I hated it at supper and I hate it tonight. I enjoy hating it so much I'm going to wake up tomorrow and start over hating it. I quit with anyone that wants to hate it with me." - Srans

"Ah yes. The Kodiak bear. For 15 years I used to hump that fucking bear. Near the end I was going through 2 cans a day. Fuck that asshole bear. I don't own a gun and i've never been to Alaska but if I ever end up there I will kill one of those mother fuckers. Gun or no gun. Ill rain blows upon his face and drop kick him in the dick if he stands up." - Diesel2112
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jlud007
Apr 17 2014, 03:57 PM
T-Cell
Apr 17 2014, 10:19 AM
Pinched
Apr 17 2014, 10:06 AM
Day 277 - 4/17/14
Newbs and others take notice...when I was on week one and two and kept hearing from the veterans on here "it gets better" I just wanted to tell them to fuck off because it sucks right now, I could give a fuck about it getting better, I wanted it better right now. I am not from the Now generation and I have never asked for anyone to give me something nor have I ever felt entitled to something, but early in my quit I just wanted all the bullshit to stop.

The constant cravings, the little voices telling me one little pinch won't hurt, the rage (OMFG the Rage), the mood swings, the change in dietary needs, posting roll... All of it was too much, at times.

However, everyone was consistent, the message was clear, the people were real, the stories hit home. The path was defined. SO I stuck with it and ever since about 240 something it has been easier. Granted the recent forum changes were not easy but no IT changes are; however, this recent changed reminded me of when I was a newb fucking up roll, bumping people lie crazy and not giving a damn because my head was so far in the fog (AKA up nicotine's ass) that I could see the real journey.

Tonight I have a chance to expand my quit network in real life again, meeting up with a over two year quitter, a -100 day brother, a seasoned yet pre-HOF quitter, and if they can make it some even more long term quitters. All of this shows me that it doesn't matter if you are on day 1, 10, 100, 1,000, 10,000; we all quit the same way daily, we are all one bad decision away from another day 1. We all share the same stories, we all are addicts.

Now insert Ferris Bueller voice "If you have the means to meet another quitter I highly recommend picking one out, they are so choice"
Ferris Bueller - So Choice

Carry on!

>P<
'Cheers' Looking forward to a couple beers and good quit conversation tonight! Great message to the newbies, it truely does get better. But you have to want it and put the work in (kinda like most worth-while things in life...) to build a quit that lasts. There are many things in life you can half-ass your way through and still be considered sucessful. Quitting isn't like that. You have to intentionally quit every day, build your accountability.
Nothing to add... only wish I was close enough to join you guys.

Rock on my brother and you guys have a great time.

shocker
Amen brother pinched! Anytime I can watch your avatar and gain good quit knowledge I get a quit chub.
Quit on brother, I'll be right behind you!
Brave men are honored, rich men are envied, powerful men are feared, but only a man with character is trusted
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Doc Chewfree
Apr 17 2014, 04:27 PM
jlud007
Apr 17 2014, 03:57 PM
T-Cell
Apr 17 2014, 10:19 AM
Pinched
Apr 17 2014, 10:06 AM
Day 277 - 4/17/14
Newbs and others take notice...when I was on week one and two and kept hearing from the veterans on here "it gets better" I just wanted to tell them to fuck off because it sucks right now, I could give a fuck about it getting better, I wanted it better right now. I am not from the Now generation and I have never asked for anyone to give me something nor have I ever felt entitled to something, but early in my quit I just wanted all the bullshit to stop.

The constant cravings, the little voices telling me one little pinch won't hurt, the rage (OMFG the Rage), the mood swings, the change in dietary needs, posting roll... All of it was too much, at times.

However, everyone was consistent, the message was clear, the people were real, the stories hit home. The path was defined. SO I stuck with it and ever since about 240 something it has been easier. Granted the recent forum changes were not easy but no IT changes are; however, this recent changed reminded me of when I was a newb fucking up roll, bumping people lie crazy and not giving a damn because my head was so far in the fog (AKA up nicotine's ass) that I could see the real journey.

Tonight I have a chance to expand my quit network in real life again, meeting up with a over two year quitter, a -100 day brother, a seasoned yet pre-HOF quitter, and if they can make it some even more long term quitters. All of this shows me that it doesn't matter if you are on day 1, 10, 100, 1,000, 10,000; we all quit the same way daily, we are all one bad decision away from another day 1. We all share the same stories, we all are addicts.

Now insert Ferris Bueller voice "If you have the means to meet another quitter I highly recommend picking one out, they are so choice"
Ferris Bueller - So Choice

Carry on!

>P<
'Cheers' Looking forward to a couple beers and good quit conversation tonight! Great message to the newbies, it truely does get better. But you have to want it and put the work in (kinda like most worth-while things in life...) to build a quit that lasts. There are many things in life you can half-ass your way through and still be considered sucessful. Quitting isn't like that. You have to intentionally quit every day, build your accountability.
Nothing to add... only wish I was close enough to join you guys.

Rock on my brother and you guys have a great time.

shocker
Amen brother pinched! Anytime I can watch your avatar and gain good quit knowledge I get a quit chub.
Quit on brother, I'll be right behind you!
please don't get behind me with a chub..not that there's anything wrong with that but i like the vagina
Boy I sure could use a beer right about now!
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jayd41
Apr 17 2014, 04:45 PM
Doc Chewfree
Apr 17 2014, 04:27 PM
jlud007
Apr 17 2014, 03:57 PM
T-Cell
Apr 17 2014, 10:19 AM
Pinched
Apr 17 2014, 10:06 AM
Day 277 - 4/17/14
Newbs and others take notice...when I was on week one and two and kept hearing from the veterans on here "it gets better" I just wanted to tell them to fuck off because it sucks right now, I could give a fuck about it getting better, I wanted it better right now. I am not from the Now generation and I have never asked for anyone to give me something nor have I ever felt entitled to something, but early in my quit I just wanted all the bullshit to stop.

The constant cravings, the little voices telling me one little pinch won't hurt, the rage (OMFG the Rage), the mood swings, the change in dietary needs, posting roll... All of it was too much, at times.

However, everyone was consistent, the message was clear, the people were real, the stories hit home. The path was defined. SO I stuck with it and ever since about 240 something it has been easier. Granted the recent forum changes were not easy but no IT changes are; however, this recent changed reminded me of when I was a newb fucking up roll, bumping people lie crazy and not giving a damn because my head was so far in the fog (AKA up nicotine's ass) that I could see the real journey.

Tonight I have a chance to expand my quit network in real life again, meeting up with a over two year quitter, a -100 day brother, a seasoned yet pre-HOF quitter, and if they can make it some even more long term quitters. All of this shows me that it doesn't matter if you are on day 1, 10, 100, 1,000, 10,000; we all quit the same way daily, we are all one bad decision away from another day 1. We all share the same stories, we all are addicts.

Now insert Ferris Bueller voice "If you have the means to meet another quitter I highly recommend picking one out, they are so choice"
Ferris Bueller - So Choice

Carry on!

>P<
'Cheers' Looking forward to a couple beers and good quit conversation tonight! Great message to the newbies, it truely does get better. But you have to want it and put the work in (kinda like most worth-while things in life...) to build a quit that lasts. There are many things in life you can half-ass your way through and still be considered sucessful. Quitting isn't like that. You have to intentionally quit every day, build your accountability.
Nothing to add... only wish I was close enough to join you guys.

Rock on my brother and you guys have a great time.

shocker
Amen brother pinched! Anytime I can watch your avatar and gain good quit knowledge I get a quit chub.
Quit on brother, I'll be right behind you!
please don't get behind me with a chub..not that there's anything wrong with that but i like the vagina
Boing
I would rather lose to a cheater than win as a cheater.
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Day 288 - 4/28/14
This weekend I coached a 7U baseball team to their first double header and victories, they won 18-0 and 16-2. Yeah that is kid pitch too. I also coached my 12U team to a tournament victory this weekend. The won with class but nearly gave away the farm as one catcher lost his head and then caused our pitcher to do the same; I hate subbing kids mid inning but these two needed pulled. The replacement players turned things around and won the final game after leading a rally coming from 5 runs behind. They did it I was merely there to help them prepare for the games.

Much like baseball other things emulate life. I made the decision last week to step out of some of my volunteer roles in the community because I started noticing that my wife and I and my daughter and I were becoming further apart and my oldest son and I were also starting to drift apart. I noticed this happening over time but wasn't sure what to do. After some soul searching it came to me one morning on my run last week, quit this, quit that, and let them lead their own life with the utmost in independence and let's see what happens. I found a replacement Cub Master and stepped down, I stepped down as Assistant Scout Master, I resigned as District Committee Chairman and I resigned as Cub Scout Day Camp Program Director for our Council. Now granted that is going to be a big hit to the Boy Scouts in the area, but I have agreed to do a few things privately and I will teach Adults how to fulfill those roles.

What does all this mean? Well I get to focus on baseball with the boys, taking the whole family on camping trips when we want and getting back to my life, no politics to deal with, no whining boys, no complaining mothers, not constantly feeling like if I don't no one else will. Hell I may just get that "honey-do" list done, I get to hunt and shoot when I want now, I can take my daughter shopping, I can take my wife out for a date...

I will certainly miss some of the aspects of it but I feel that as long as I continue to support my son's and their choices then they can become their own kind of men and my daughter can become the princess she deserves to be.

P.S. I am doing it all without nicotine or tobacco, so UST can still kiss my ass, my money is my kid's money, come try to take it from me.

>P<
"If you want to quit then stop talking and just QUIT. If you want to kill yourself a bullet is cheaper and faster than a tin, plus it eliminates my hearing you whine and cry like a bitch."

Best thing I have read on KTC...Submitted by tgafish on 7/3/14

Former Skoal Straight and Cope Longcut user that started at the age of 12. QUIT on 7/15/13
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Pinched
Apr 28 2014, 10:42 AM
Day 288 - 4/28/14
This weekend I coached a 7U baseball team to their first double header and victories, they won 18-0 and 16-2. Yeah that is kid pitch too. I also coached my 12U team to a tournament victory this weekend. The won with class but nearly gave away the farm as one catcher lost his head and then caused our pitcher to do the same; I hate subbing kids mid inning but these two needed pulled. The replacement players turned things around and won the final game after leading a rally coming from 5 runs behind. They did it I was merely there to help them prepare for the games.

Much like baseball other things emulate life. I made the decision last week to step out of some of my volunteer roles in the community because I started noticing that my wife and I and my daughter and I were becoming further apart and my oldest son and I were also starting to drift apart. I noticed this happening over time but wasn't sure what to do. After some soul searching it came to me one morning on my run last week, quit this, quit that, and let them lead their own life with the utmost in independence and let's see what happens. I found a replacement Cub Master and stepped down, I stepped down as Assistant Scout Master, I resigned as District Committee Chairman and I resigned as Cub Scout Day Camp Program Director for our Council. Now granted that is going to be a big hit to the Boy Scouts in the area, but I have agreed to do a few things privately and I will teach Adults how to fulfill those roles.

What does all this mean? Well I get to focus on baseball with the boys, taking the whole family on camping trips when we want and getting back to my life, no politics to deal with, no whining boys, no complaining mothers, not constantly feeling like if I don't no one else will. Hell I may just get that "honey-do" list done, I get to hunt and shoot when I want now, I can take my daughter shopping, I can take my wife out for a date...

I will certainly miss some of the aspects of it but I feel that as long as I continue to support my son's and their choices then they can become their own kind of men and my daughter can become the princess she deserves to be.

P.S. I am doing it all without nicotine or tobacco, so UST can still kiss my ass, my money is my kid's money, come try to take it from me.

>P<
Good on you! Adults and children aren't too different. Everyone wants to ride in the wagon and have someone else pull it. As long as someone pulls, most kids wont take a turn. I think you just let you community know that its time for some others to take a turn pulling the wagon.

Nothing wrong with that, in fact everything is right with that. Whiny mothers should become the cub scout leaders. Then they have more perspective.

Anyway you have a good quit going because you are recovering from the illness of addiction too. Not jus quit but owning your destination in life!

Quit And Be Free

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Fuck you guys. Again.
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Mthomas3824
Apr 28 2014, 11:30 AM
Pinched
Apr 28 2014, 10:42 AM
Day 288 - 4/28/14
This weekend I coached a 7U baseball team to their first double header and victories, they won 18-0 and 16-2. Yeah that is kid pitch too. I also coached my 12U team to a tournament victory this weekend. The won with class but nearly gave away the farm as one catcher lost his head and then caused our pitcher to do the same; I hate subbing kids mid inning but these two needed pulled. The replacement players turned things around and won the final game after leading a rally coming from 5 runs behind. They did it I was merely there to help them prepare for the games.

Much like baseball other things emulate life. I made the decision last week to step out of some of my volunteer roles in the community because I started noticing that my wife and I and my daughter and I were becoming further apart and my oldest son and I were also starting to drift apart. I noticed this happening over time but wasn't sure what to do. After some soul searching it came to me one morning on my run last week, quit this, quit that, and let them lead their own life with the utmost in independence and let's see what happens. I found a replacement Cub Master and stepped down, I stepped down as Assistant Scout Master, I resigned as District Committee Chairman and I resigned as Cub Scout Day Camp Program Director for our Council. Now granted that is going to be a big hit to the Boy Scouts in the area, but I have agreed to do a few things privately and I will teach Adults how to fulfill those roles.

What does all this mean? Well I get to focus on baseball with the boys, taking the whole family on camping trips when we want and getting back to my life, no politics to deal with, no whining boys, no complaining mothers, not constantly feeling like if I don't no one else will. Hell I may just get that "honey-do" list done, I get to hunt and shoot when I want now, I can take my daughter shopping, I can take my wife out for a date...

I will certainly miss some of the aspects of it but I feel that as long as I continue to support my son's and their choices then they can become their own kind of men and my daughter can become the princess she deserves to be.

P.S. I am doing it all without nicotine or tobacco, so UST can still kiss my ass, my money is my kid's money, come try to take it from me.

>P<
Good on you! Adults and children aren't too different. Everyone wants to ride in the wagon and have someone else pull it. As long as someone pulls, most kids wont take a turn. I think you just let you community know that its time for some others to take a turn pulling the wagon.

Nothing wrong with that, in fact everything is right with that. Whiny mothers should become the cub scout leaders. Then they have more perspective.

Anyway you have a good quit going because you are recovering from the illness of addiction too. Not jus quit but owning your destination in life!

I signed up to be the den leader of my son 3 years ago.

Fast forward to this year, and I'm stepping back. I love it. I just don't have time for everything. (And, the worst part is that the leadership roles require you to spend time with every kid and parent except your own.) I'm going to be an assistant, and my theory is that I will be glad to show up and help pretty much every meeting. I signed up to be with my boy. I'll gladly help, but he deserves my attention too.

I did the same thing with baseball and not "officially" coaching but I show up and help out.

There's nothing wrong with focusing on your family first. I'm in the same place.
In the end I Surrender, I and I alone accept that I have and always will have a Nicotene ADDICTION. It is my choice to quit, but I can't do it alone. I get to go down this path one time, I want to do it right. I recognize that my word, my integrety to you is on the line and is only as good as my actions. Caving is not an option in this plan-Eafman 7/11

I am not cured. I will quit one day at a time. I will continue to do what works. Posting roll everyday. To do otherwise would be foolish on my part. You can do this-Ready 12/11

To overcome your addiction you must comprehend what it means to fail-Razd 3/12

Theres a lot of people that come here, especially vets, that WANT to be reminded that they are addicts.-Tarpon 6/12

Just as a building starts with architectural drawings. Your daily quit begins with a promise.-Scowick 2/13

Here and now, focused on today, minute by minute, whatever it takes, I promise to all my bros and myself not to become a negative stat and stay quit!-krok 1/15

I want everyone to be quit. Even the assholes.-Probe1957 1/18

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If you do not fix your avatar...I'm gonna take a shit on your intro page! 'flush'
Brave men are honored, rich men are envied, powerful men are feared, but only a man with character is trusted
Quit on Feb. 6, 2014

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If you do not fix your avatar...I'm gonna take a shit on your intro page! 'flush'
have to admit, I miss that bouncing avatar as well... 'boob'
Fish, eat, sleep. Repeat.
quit date 2/10/12
HOF date 5/19/12
1 Year 2/10/13
2 Years 2/10/14
8th Floor 4/19/14
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NO PINCH for me Walt! I Don't USE that SHIT anymore!
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wastepanel
Apr 28 2014, 02:37 PM
Mthomas3824
Apr 28 2014, 11:30 AM
Pinched
Apr 28 2014, 10:42 AM
Day 288 - 4/28/14
This weekend I coached a 7U baseball team to their first double header and victories, they won 18-0 and 16-2. Yeah that is kid pitch too. I also coached my 12U team to a tournament victory this weekend. The won with class but nearly gave away the farm as one catcher lost his head and then caused our pitcher to do the same; I hate subbing kids mid inning but these two needed pulled. The replacement players turned things around and won the final game after leading a rally coming from 5 runs behind. They did it I was merely there to help them prepare for the games.

Much like baseball other things emulate life. I made the decision last week to step out of some of my volunteer roles in the community because I started noticing that my wife and I and my daughter and I were becoming further apart and my oldest son and I were also starting to drift apart. I noticed this happening over time but wasn't sure what to do. After some soul searching it came to me one morning on my run last week, quit this, quit that, and let them lead their own life with the utmost in independence and let's see what happens. I found a replacement Cub Master and stepped down, I stepped down as Assistant Scout Master, I resigned as District Committee Chairman and I resigned as Cub Scout Day Camp Program Director for our Council. Now granted that is going to be a big hit to the Boy Scouts in the area, but I have agreed to do a few things privately and I will teach Adults how to fulfill those roles.

What does all this mean? Well I get to focus on baseball with the boys, taking the whole family on camping trips when we want and getting back to my life, no politics to deal with, no whining boys, no complaining mothers, not constantly feeling like if I don't no one else will. Hell I may just get that "honey-do" list done, I get to hunt and shoot when I want now, I can take my daughter shopping, I can take my wife out for a date...

I will certainly miss some of the aspects of it but I feel that as long as I continue to support my son's and their choices then they can become their own kind of men and my daughter can become the princess she deserves to be.

P.S. I am doing it all without nicotine or tobacco, so UST can still kiss my ass, my money is my kid's money, come try to take it from me.

>P<
Good on you! Adults and children aren't too different. Everyone wants to ride in the wagon and have someone else pull it. As long as someone pulls, most kids wont take a turn. I think you just let you community know that its time for some others to take a turn pulling the wagon.

Nothing wrong with that, in fact everything is right with that. Whiny mothers should become the cub scout leaders. Then they have more perspective.

Anyway you have a good quit going because you are recovering from the illness of addiction too. Not jus quit but owning your destination in life!

I signed up to be the den leader of my son 3 years ago.

Fast forward to this year, and I'm stepping back. I love it. I just don't have time for everything. (And, the worst part is that the leadership roles require you to spend time with every kid and parent except your own.) I'm going to be an assistant, and my theory is that I will be glad to show up and help pretty much every meeting. I signed up to be with my boy. I'll gladly help, but he deserves my attention too.

I did the same thing with baseball and not "officially" coaching but I show up and help out.

There's nothing wrong with focusing on your family first. I'm in the same place.
I'm 100% on board with you on this one. Someone else can replace you in the scouts and take their turn, but you can't replace lost time with your wife and family. Once that time is gone its gone forever. Since my daughter is a senior and going off to college next year, i am especially sensitive to this issue. Traveling for work and my selfish dip habit cost me a lot of time from my family before I finally put them first before everything else.
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