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I quit
Topic Started: Jul 19 2010, 12:39 AM (2,609 Views)
cmay1
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John - is that your wife in your avatar?

6 years of marriage has banished any memory of a bj that I may have once had. 25 years of marriage might make me forget what the term even means...

Speaking of, my 6 year anniversary is coming up on the 7th of August - any inexpensive gift ideas that she would actually like?
"So if EVERYTHING was a trigger then nothing is really a 'trigger'" - MikeA


"panting like a fatopotomus" - Greg5280

"...and then at last my addict friend, you'll see what you've forsaken, when 100 speak the truth, and yet you disagree, then maybe you're mistaken." - SkoalMonster
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Jul 28, 2010, 8:00 am
John - is that your wife in your avatar?

6 years of marriage has banished any memory of a bj that I may have once had. 25 years of marriage might make me forget what the term even means...

Speaking of, my 6 year anniversary is coming up on the 7th of August - any inexpensive gift ideas that she would actually like?

Yes that is my wife in my avatar. That was taken on our honeymoon in a theme room at a motel in lake tahoe. Funny we got married on cocoa beach in florida and instead of a cruise she wanted tahoe... go figure

As for the gift ideas. How much we talking? Usually if it plugs in, is use for cooking, cleaning, or chores it is a bad idea lol. 6 years deserves a little romance. Sitter for the kids, cheap diner (talking drive in cheap not mc donalds cheap) share a banana split or something, and then pop out a nice set of ear rings or a necklace. This always got my pecker washed and shined with my ex and with my current wife
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Hey everyone I have a question and need your input. When I quit I did it with out the fake chew. A really good friend is having a bday party as I have mentioned and while I have no problem staying clear of alcohol 3 of the guys there are dippers. At this stage in my quit would it be counter productive to use the fake stuff if I go to the party and get to jonzin to hard. I am getting a lot of shit about my choice to not go and lots of hurt feelings. Mainly because noone else has attempted to quit anything in their life. If starting the fake is counter productive at all I will not think about it. For me that's an easy choice
Proud to be a future Oct HOF - COCKS RULE
During this hard quit I am 100% sure that a blowjob is the best cure for a craving.
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john101477
Jul 29, 2010, 10:09 pm
Hey everyone I have a question and need your input. When I quit I did it with out the fake chew. A really good friend is having a bday party as I have mentioned and while I have no problem staying clear of alcohol 3 of the guys there are dippers. At this stage in my quit would it be counter productive to use the fake stuff if I go to the party and get to jonzin to hard. I am getting a lot of shit about my choice to not go and lots of hurt feelings. Mainly because noone else has attempted to quit anything in their life. If starting the fake is counter productive at all I will not think about it. For me that's an easy choice

big debate....there are plenty that would say you are doing fine w/o it keep it out of your face too. But I think all would agree it is probably better to have some with you at a time like that then to risk getting weak. I would but that is me. Either way you are a bad sumbitch and will not cave.

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john101477
Jul 27, 2010, 8:25 pm
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Jul 27, 2010, 7:34 pm
john101477
Jul 27, 2010, 7:23 pm
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Jul 27, 2010, 5:09 pm
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Jul 27, 2010, 5:14 pm
RickDicolus
Jul 27, 2010, 5:07 pm
RagingJew
Jul 27, 2010, 4:31 pm
john101477
Jul 27, 2010, 3:21 pm
john101477
Jul 27, 2010, 3:17 pm
Lost
Jul 27, 2010, 2:57 pm
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Lost
Jul 27, 2010, 2:46 pm
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Jul 27, 2010, 2:22 pm
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Jul 27, 2010, 4:10 pm
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Jul 27, 2010, 2:04 pm
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kb81
Jul 27, 2010, 12:10 pm
MikeA
Jul 27, 2010, 12:08 pm
john101477
Jul 27, 2010, 12:43 pm
Unexpected BJ's,
I there such thing as an expected BJ.....not from Mrs MikeA there isn't
what is that? Nope...none from Mrs. KB81 neither...we're not even married yet LOL.
Haha well not really expected BJ's but irregular. I can generally figure on 2 a week right bfore bed. By unexpected I mean 2 a day which made me a mostly happy man during the worst part of the quit for me which was days 2-7
I HATE YOU
That's not very nice.
What do you care...apparently you are getting a lot more lovin' than Lost, so...meh. :lol:
I thought this was appropriate: A tally of John's July 2010 BJ's: 'bj' 'bj' 'bj' 'bj' 'bj' 'bj' 'bj' 'bj' 'bj' 'bj' 'bj' 'bj' 'bj' 'bj' A tally of Cmay's July 2010 BJ's: 'finger point' 'finger point' 'finger point' 'finger point' 'finger point' 'finger point' 'finger point' 'finger point' 'finger point' 'finger point' 'finger point' 'finger point' 'finger point' 'finger point' 'finger point' 'finger point' 'finger point' 'Y' ??? (my wife...) 'Finger' (me in response).
If it was a truly consistant thing I would understand the respnce from lost. Yes between july 18 -21st I got a lot of love. I might add beside a little while ago I had not had any love since the 21st. Also want to point out that the BJ often replaces intercourse in my house due to some issues my wife has.
You don't have kids do you?
Hahaha our daughter is napping as she does nearly every day from 12:30 to 3-4 ish It works out pretty good


Dude... you are killing me!!! 'worship'

I think your wife needs to talk to mine. Lucky bastard

Hahaha don't go bowing just yet. It is far from roses.
If your wife is a good cook, can walk and chew gum at the same time, does not feel the need to tell her whole life story to explain the flavor of gum she was chewing when she tripped yesterday..... get the picture? She is great at 3 things cleaning, being a mother, and sucking my pecker :D
Now I am being a little harsh here but she just managed to piss me off again.

I will add that IMO there is absolutley no better way to get through the first 3-4 days of quit nor any better way to get through a harsh craving than getting a blowjob. I get tired enough to nap right after so the craving stays away even longer

My wife suck-starts the Jew atleast once a week.

My wife refers to her menses as "blowjob week."

but do they go ass to mouth

Good way to get e. coli poisoning. But seriously, is there a bad way?

At least some of you other guys get treated well. I am pretty much cut off the first 2 days of menses then she feels bad enough about being a PITA that she is nice for a few days after

I have been married for 25 years. This whole conversation confuses me.. :blink:

I seem to remember something about a BJ but I believe that was a movie I was watching....


'crackup'

25 years and can't remember what a BJ is? Dude I am so so sorry lol you might wanna talk tpo the missus about that
Just tell her a BJ a day keeps the dip away

Well i hate to say this but your wives are pretty lame.. I have been getting 2 a day for the last 20 years. Monday through Friday at least..

Oh shit sorry, I thought the topic was PBJ's.. not BJ's
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john101477
Jul 29, 2010, 10:09 pm
Hey everyone I have a question and need your input. When I quit I did it with out the fake chew. A really good friend is having a bday party as I have mentioned and while I have no problem staying clear of alcohol 3 of the guys there are dippers. At this stage in my quit would it be counter productive to use the fake stuff if I go to the party and get to jonzin to hard. I am getting a lot of shit about my choice to not go and lots of hurt feelings. Mainly because noone else has attempted to quit anything in their life. If starting the fake is counter productive at all I will not think about it. For me that's an easy choice

big debate....there are plenty that would say you are doing fine w/o it keep it out of your face too. But I think all would agree it is probably better to have some with you at a time like that then to risk getting weak. I would but that is me. Either way you are a bad sumbitch and will not cave.

MOA

Thanks MOA. My desicion to boycott the party has been met with a lot of resistance
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Jul 30, 2010, 10:15 am
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Jul 29, 2010, 11:28 pm
john101477
Jul 29, 2010, 10:09 pm
Hey everyone I have a question and need your input. When I quit I did it with out the fake chew. A really good friend is having a bday party as I have mentioned and while I have no problem staying clear of alcohol 3 of the guys there are dippers. At this stage in my quit would it be counter productive to use the fake stuff if I go to the party and get to jonzin to hard. I am getting a lot of shit about my choice to not go and lots of hurt feelings. Mainly because noone else has attempted to quit anything in their life. If starting the fake is counter productive at all I will not think about it. For me that's an easy choice

big debate....there are plenty that would say you are doing fine w/o it keep it out of your face too. But I think all would agree it is probably better to have some with you at a time like that then to risk getting weak. I would but that is me. Either way you are a bad sumbitch and will not cave.

MOA

Thanks MOA. My desicion to boycott the party has been met with a lot of resistance

Then I say screw 'em...

Too bad, they get butt-hurt cause you don't want to be around a trigger when you are quit. I would think that if they are good friends, they would understand you not wanting to be around it for a while.

Just my $.02
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Jul 30, 2010, 12:19 pm
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Jul 30, 2010, 10:15 am
minuteofangle
Jul 29, 2010, 11:28 pm
john101477
Jul 29, 2010, 10:09 pm
Hey everyone I have a question and need your input. When I quit I did it with out the fake chew. A really good friend is having a bday party as I have mentioned and while I have no problem staying clear of alcohol 3 of the guys there are dippers. At this stage in my quit would it be counter productive to use the fake stuff if I go to the party and get to jonzin to hard. I am getting a lot of shit about my choice to not go and lots of hurt feelings. Mainly because noone else has attempted to quit anything in their life. If starting the fake is counter productive at all I will not think about it. For me that's an easy choice

big debate....there are plenty that would say you are doing fine w/o it keep it out of your face too. But I think all would agree it is probably better to have some with you at a time like that then to risk getting weak. I would but that is me. Either way you are a bad sumbitch and will not cave.

MOA

Thanks MOA. My desicion to boycott the party has been met with a lot of resistance

Then I say screw 'em...

Too bad, they get butt-hurt cause you don't want to be around a trigger when you are quit. I would think that if they are good friends, they would understand you not wanting to be around it for a while.

Just my $.02

John -

My personal experience has been that the herbal stuff ended up becoming a trigger for me, so I am anti-fake. However, if I were going to that party, I'd take some with me. Shit, I'd put it in a cleaned out can of skoal or cope or put the skoal or cope lid on it so people would leave me the fuck alone. And use it or don't - maybe it'll be enough for your friends to see it in your back pocket, and they won't bother you.
"So if EVERYTHING was a trigger then nothing is really a 'trigger'" - MikeA


"panting like a fatopotomus" - Greg5280

"...and then at last my addict friend, you'll see what you've forsaken, when 100 speak the truth, and yet you disagree, then maybe you're mistaken." - SkoalMonster
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Jul 30, 2010, 10:15 am
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Jul 29, 2010, 11:28 pm
john101477
Jul 29, 2010, 10:09 pm
Hey everyone I have a question and need your input. When I quit I did it with out the fake chew. A really good friend is having a bday party as I have mentioned and while I have no problem staying clear of alcohol 3 of the guys there are dippers. At this stage in my quit would it be counter productive to use the fake stuff if I go to the party and get to jonzin to hard. I am getting a lot of shit about my choice to not go and lots of hurt feelings. Mainly because noone else has attempted to quit anything in their life. If starting the fake is counter productive at all I will not think about it. For me that's an easy choice

big debate....there are plenty that would say you are doing fine w/o it keep it out of your face too. But I think all would agree it is probably better to have some with you at a time like that then to risk getting weak. I would but that is me. Either way you are a bad sumbitch and will not cave.

MOA

Thanks MOA. My desicion to boycott the party has been met with a lot of resistance

Then I say screw 'em...

Too bad, they get butt-hurt cause you don't want to be around a trigger when you are quit. I would think that if they are good friends, they would understand you not wanting to be around it for a while.

Just my $.02

Agreed.
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Jul 30, 2010, 10:15 am
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Jul 29, 2010, 11:28 pm
john101477
Jul 29, 2010, 10:09 pm
Hey everyone I have a question and need your input. When I quit I did it with out the fake chew. A really good friend is having a bday party as I have mentioned and while I have no problem staying clear of alcohol 3 of the guys there are dippers. At this stage in my quit would it be counter productive to use the fake stuff if I go to the party and get to jonzin to hard. I am getting a lot of shit about my choice to not go and lots of hurt feelings. Mainly because noone else has attempted to quit anything in their life. If starting the fake is counter productive at all I will not think about it. For me that's an easy choice

big debate....there are plenty that would say you are doing fine w/o it keep it out of your face too. But I think all would agree it is probably better to have some with you at a time like that then to risk getting weak. I would but that is me. Either way you are a bad sumbitch and will not cave.

MOA

Thanks MOA. My desicion to boycott the party has been met with a lot of resistance

Then I say screw 'em...

Too bad, they get butt-hurt cause you don't want to be around a trigger when you are quit. I would think that if they are good friends, they would understand you not wanting to be around it for a while.

Just my $.02

Agreed.

The truth is dippers are uncomfortable around quitters. They know you have done something they cannot and it makes them feel inferior. You will get stronger in your quit and you will be able to be around dippers.

Great idea to avoid that trigger. I did the same thing many times early in my quit. Better safe than re-posting a 1
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Jul 29, 2010, 10:09 pm
Hey everyone I have a question and need your input. When I quit I did it with out the fake chew. A really good friend is having a bday party as I have mentioned and while I have no problem staying clear of alcohol 3 of the guys there are dippers. At this stage in my quit would it be counter productive to use the fake stuff if I go to the party and get to jonzin to hard. I am getting a lot of shit about my choice to not go and lots of hurt feelings. Mainly because noone else has attempted to quit anything in their life. If starting the fake is counter productive at all I will not think about it. For me that's an easy choice

big debate....there are plenty that would say you are doing fine w/o it keep it out of your face too. But I think all would agree it is probably better to have some with you at a time like that then to risk getting weak. I would but that is me. Either way you are a bad sumbitch and will not cave.

MOA

Thanks MOA. My desicion to boycott the party has been met with a lot of resistance

Then I say screw 'em...

Too bad, they get butt-hurt cause you don't want to be around a trigger when you are quit. I would think that if they are good friends, they would understand you not wanting to be around it for a while.

Just my $.02

Agreed.

The truth is dippers are uncomfortable around quitters. They know you have done something they cannot and it makes them feel inferior. You will get stronger in your quit and you will be able to be around dippers.

Great idea to avoid that trigger. I did the same thing many times early in my quit. Better safe than re-posting a 1

Like these guys say, fuck 'em if they don't understand (I suspect they do, but like these guys say, your strength will make them uncomfortable about their weakness).

Bottom line, quitting is the most important thing you'll do today, the day of the party, etc. If that means your friends are going to be a little bent out of shape because you're protecting your young quit from a trigger, then so be it. Fake dip? Take it down if you need to. If you really want to stay quit, you have to make it priority number 1 for a while. Period. Not 2, not 1b, but numero uno.

Ask Skoalmonster about priorities
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Jul 30, 2010, 10:15 am
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Jul 29, 2010, 11:28 pm
john101477
Jul 29, 2010, 10:09 pm
Hey everyone I have a question and need your input. When I quit I did it with out the fake chew. A really good friend is having a bday party as I have mentioned and while I have no problem staying clear of alcohol 3 of the guys there are dippers. At this stage in my quit would it be counter productive to use the fake stuff if I go to the party and get to jonzin to hard. I am getting a lot of shit about my choice to not go and lots of hurt feelings. Mainly because noone else has attempted to quit anything in their life. If starting the fake is counter productive at all I will not think about it. For me that's an easy choice

big debate....there are plenty that would say you are doing fine w/o it keep it out of your face too. But I think all would agree it is probably better to have some with you at a time like that then to risk getting weak. I would but that is me. Either way you are a bad sumbitch and will not cave.

MOA

Thanks MOA. My desicion to boycott the party has been met with a lot of resistance

Then I say screw 'em...

Too bad, they get butt-hurt cause you don't want to be around a trigger when you are quit. I would think that if they are good friends, they would understand you not wanting to be around it for a while.

Just my $.02

Agreed.

The truth is dippers are uncomfortable around quitters. They know you have done something they cannot and it makes them feel inferior. You will get stronger in your quit and you will be able to be around dippers.

Great idea to avoid that trigger. I did the same thing many times early in my quit. Better safe than re-posting a 1

Like these guys say, fuck 'em if they don't understand (I suspect they do, but like these guys say, your strength will make them uncomfortable about their weakness).

Bottom line, quitting is the most important thing you'll do today, the day of the party, etc. If that means your friends are going to be a little bent out of shape because you're protecting your young quit from a trigger, then so be it. Fake dip? Take it down if you need to. If you really want to stay quit, you have to make it priority number 1 for a while. Period. Not 2, not 1b, but numero uno.

Ask Skoalmonster about priorities

I sure wish I had gotten the chance to read this before last night. No worries I am still quit on day 15 or 16 lol gotta check. So yesterday was tough. Drove down to grizzley island with my cousin to check out some elk. He chews leaf but I was fine with my seeds all day.
That evening he talked me into going to a poker game. Of course we get there and some chick is smoking pot (which I can not stand the smell of) and all the guys are chewing. Had to make an emergency run to the store for seeds.
My cousin. Who I might add did not start chewing until he was 26-27 kept on with the "I don't know why you want to quit, you can get cancer by walking out your door" and "it won't last, my dad stopped chewing for 2 years and then had one". WTF? I just told hime it was my fucking choice and that I had my reasons for quitting.
All said and done I pulled a bone head move by going in the first place but I never took a drink and never took a dip.

Hope some new quitters read this and realize that leading yourself into temptation is never a good idea. As those before me have learned do what's right for the quit not what feels the best cause that feeling is only temporary.
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Jul 31, 2010, 11:55 am
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Jul 30, 2010, 11:55 am
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Jul 30, 2010, 10:42 am
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Jul 30, 2010, 11:51 am
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Jul 30, 2010, 11:19 am
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Jul 30, 2010, 10:15 am
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Jul 29, 2010, 11:28 pm
john101477
Jul 29, 2010, 10:09 pm
Hey everyone I have a question and need your input. When I quit I did it with out the fake chew. A really good friend is having a bday party as I have mentioned and while I have no problem staying clear of alcohol 3 of the guys there are dippers. At this stage in my quit would it be counter productive to use the fake stuff if I go to the party and get to jonzin to hard. I am getting a lot of shit about my choice to not go and lots of hurt feelings. Mainly because noone else has attempted to quit anything in their life. If starting the fake is counter productive at all I will not think about it. For me that's an easy choice

big debate....there are plenty that would say you are doing fine w/o it keep it out of your face too. But I think all would agree it is probably better to have some with you at a time like that then to risk getting weak. I would but that is me. Either way you are a bad sumbitch and will not cave.

MOA

Thanks MOA. My desicion to boycott the party has been met with a lot of resistance

Then I say screw 'em...

Too bad, they get butt-hurt cause you don't want to be around a trigger when you are quit. I would think that if they are good friends, they would understand you not wanting to be around it for a while.

Just my $.02

Agreed.

The truth is dippers are uncomfortable around quitters. They know you have done something they cannot and it makes them feel inferior. You will get stronger in your quit and you will be able to be around dippers.

Great idea to avoid that trigger. I did the same thing many times early in my quit. Better safe than re-posting a 1

Like these guys say, fuck 'em if they don't understand (I suspect they do, but like these guys say, your strength will make them uncomfortable about their weakness).

Bottom line, quitting is the most important thing you'll do today, the day of the party, etc. If that means your friends are going to be a little bent out of shape because you're protecting your young quit from a trigger, then so be it. Fake dip? Take it down if you need to. If you really want to stay quit, you have to make it priority number 1 for a while. Period. Not 2, not 1b, but numero uno.

Ask Skoalmonster about priorities

I sure wish I had gotten the chance to read this before last night. No worries I am still quit on day 15 or 16 lol gotta check. So yesterday was tough. Drove down to grizzley island with my cousin to check out some elk. He chews leaf but I was fine with my seeds all day.
That evening he talked me into going to a poker game. Of course we get there and some chick is smoking pot (which I can not stand the smell of) and all the guys are chewing. Had to make an emergency run to the store for seeds.
My cousin. Who I might add did not start chewing until he was 26-27 kept on with the "I don't know why you want to quit, you can get cancer by walking out your door" and "it won't last, my dad stopped chewing for 2 years and then had one". WTF? I just told hime it was my fucking choice and that I had my reasons for quitting.
All said and done I pulled a bone head move by going in the first place but I never took a drink and never took a dip.

Hope some new quitters read this and realize that leading yourself into temptation is never a good idea. As those before me have learned do what's right for the quit not what feels the best cause that feeling is only temporary.

Good job on stayin quit!

But you really did choose the hard way, didnt you? :D
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john101477
Jul 29, 2010, 10:09 pm
Hey everyone I have a question and need your input. When I quit I did it with out the fake chew. A really good friend is having a bday party as I have mentioned and while I have no problem staying clear of alcohol 3 of the guys there are dippers. At this stage in my quit would it be counter productive to use the fake stuff if I go to the party and get to jonzin to hard. I am getting a lot of shit about my choice to not go and lots of hurt feelings. Mainly because noone else has attempted to quit anything in their life. If starting the fake is counter productive at all I will not think about it. For me that's an easy choice

big debate....there are plenty that would say you are doing fine w/o it keep it out of your face too. But I think all would agree it is probably better to have some with you at a time like that then to risk getting weak. I would but that is me. Either way you are a bad sumbitch and will not cave.

MOA

Thanks MOA. My desicion to boycott the party has been met with a lot of resistance

Then I say screw 'em...

Too bad, they get butt-hurt cause you don't want to be around a trigger when you are quit. I would think that if they are good friends, they would understand you not wanting to be around it for a while.

Just my $.02

Agreed.

The truth is dippers are uncomfortable around quitters. They know you have done something they cannot and it makes them feel inferior. You will get stronger in your quit and you will be able to be around dippers.

Great idea to avoid that trigger. I did the same thing many times early in my quit. Better safe than re-posting a 1

Like these guys say, fuck 'em if they don't understand (I suspect they do, but like these guys say, your strength will make them uncomfortable about their weakness).

Bottom line, quitting is the most important thing you'll do today, the day of the party, etc. If that means your friends are going to be a little bent out of shape because you're protecting your young quit from a trigger, then so be it. Fake dip? Take it down if you need to. If you really want to stay quit, you have to make it priority number 1 for a while. Period. Not 2, not 1b, but numero uno.

Ask Skoalmonster about priorities

I sure wish I had gotten the chance to read this before last night. No worries I am still quit on day 15 or 16 lol gotta check. So yesterday was tough. Drove down to grizzley island with my cousin to check out some elk. He chews leaf but I was fine with my seeds all day.
That evening he talked me into going to a poker game. Of course we get there and some chick is smoking pot (which I can not stand the smell of) and all the guys are chewing. Had to make an emergency run to the store for seeds.
My cousin. Who I might add did not start chewing until he was 26-27 kept on with the "I don't know why you want to quit, you can get cancer by walking out your door" and "it won't last, my dad stopped chewing for 2 years and then had one". WTF? I just told hime it was my fucking choice and that I had my reasons for quitting.
All said and done I pulled a bone head move by going in the first place but I never took a drink and never took a dip.

Hope some new quitters read this and realize that leading yourself into temptation is never a good idea. As those before me have learned do what's right for the quit not what feels the best cause that feeling is only temporary.

Good job on stayin quit!

But you really did choose the hard way, didnt you? :D

Yeah it was pretty crazy the first game could not consentrate at all. The second game I had to really buckle down and I think it through the others for a loop cause I brought money home :D
Still though, the first 3 hours were pretty extreme and it is far better to just not put yourself into that situation
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Hey everyone I have a question and need your input. When I quit I did it with out the fake chew. A really good friend is having a bday party as I have mentioned and while I have no problem staying clear of alcohol 3 of the guys there are dippers. At this stage in my quit would it be counter productive to use the fake stuff if I go to the party and get to jonzin to hard. I am getting a lot of shit about my choice to not go and lots of hurt feelings. Mainly because noone else has attempted to quit anything in their life. If starting the fake is counter productive at all I will not think about it. For me that's an easy choice

big debate....there are plenty that would say you are doing fine w/o it keep it out of your face too. But I think all would agree it is probably better to have some with you at a time like that then to risk getting weak. I would but that is me. Either way you are a bad sumbitch and will not cave.

MOA

Thanks MOA. My desicion to boycott the party has been met with a lot of resistance

Then I say screw 'em...

Too bad, they get butt-hurt cause you don't want to be around a trigger when you are quit. I would think that if they are good friends, they would understand you not wanting to be around it for a while.

Just my $.02

Agreed.

The truth is dippers are uncomfortable around quitters. They know you have done something they cannot and it makes them feel inferior. You will get stronger in your quit and you will be able to be around dippers.

Great idea to avoid that trigger. I did the same thing many times early in my quit. Better safe than re-posting a 1

Like these guys say, fuck 'em if they don't understand (I suspect they do, but like these guys say, your strength will make them uncomfortable about their weakness).

Bottom line, quitting is the most important thing you'll do today, the day of the party, etc. If that means your friends are going to be a little bent out of shape because you're protecting your young quit from a trigger, then so be it. Fake dip? Take it down if you need to. If you really want to stay quit, you have to make it priority number 1 for a while. Period. Not 2, not 1b, but numero uno.

Ask Skoalmonster about priorities

I sure wish I had gotten the chance to read this before last night. No worries I am still quit on day 15 or 16 lol gotta check. So yesterday was tough. Drove down to grizzley island with my cousin to check out some elk. He chews leaf but I was fine with my seeds all day.
That evening he talked me into going to a poker game. Of course we get there and some chick is smoking pot (which I can not stand the smell of) and all the guys are chewing. Had to make an emergency run to the store for seeds.
My cousin. Who I might add did not start chewing until he was 26-27 kept on with the "I don't know why you want to quit, you can get cancer by walking out your door" and "it won't last, my dad stopped chewing for 2 years and then had one". WTF? I just told hime it was my fucking choice and that I had my reasons for quitting.
All said and done I pulled a bone head move by going in the first place but I never took a drink and never took a dip.

Hope some new quitters read this and realize that leading yourself into temptation is never a good idea. As those before me have learned do what's right for the quit not what feels the best cause that feeling is only temporary.

Good job on stayin quit!

But you really did choose the hard way, didnt you? :D

Yeah it was pretty crazy the first game could not consentrate at all. The second game I had to really buckle down and I think it through the others for a loop cause I brought money home :D
Still though, the first 3 hours were pretty extreme and it is far better to just not put yourself into that situation

Nice work staying quit, and nice work coming to the realization that it just not be worth it to test yourself at this point. In time, you'll be able to do everything you did yesterday with no problems, but early on it's a small price to pay to forego things you "want" to do in order to protect your quit.
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